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Evgenia Debryanskaya: "I Don't Give a Damn about Public Opinion"

Debryanskaya's interview, accompanied by her photo, in "Argumenty i fakty."
Evgenia Debryanskaya: “I couldn’t care less about public opinion”
Caption under photo: RUSSIA'S MAIN LESBIAN
Evgenia Debryanskaya's life path has been thorny but straight as an arrow, shot steady-handed toward its target. After finishing school in Sverdlovsk, unlike most of her peers, she didn't tie herself down with further education or work, but instead went to Moscow "seeking freedom." There, in the early 80s, she met Valeria Novodvorskaya and other members of opposition groups, with whom she later joined the notoriously controversial "Democratic Union" movement. Being an adherent of same-sex love, in 1990 she and her like-minded associate Roman Kalinin announced the beginning of a movement for homosexual rights, and she was elected chairperson of the Libertarian Party, which she founded and which has since ceased to exist.
- Zhenya, by the standards familiar to most people, you've always been an "outcast," a "freeloader," "parasitizing on the healthy body of our society"—in general, you were clearly an antisocial personality. Don't you think that such an image does nothing to improve public opinion of sexual minorities?
Yes, many people think exactly that about me. But as Mr. Stroessner (the Paraguayan dictator - Ed. note) once said: "I couldn't care less about public opinion. What matters is how I feel about myself." And I couldn't care less either.
- However, nowadays you're not as politically active. Have you deemed the defense of gay and lesbian rights in Russia a hopeless cause?
We simply don't have money, and nowadays no movement can survive without funding. In the West—for example, in Germany or Sweden—there are government programs supporting homosexual organizations, with money allocated by the state. But it's simply ridiculous to talk about any support from the Russian government.
- In your opinion, are there homosexuals in our parliament and government? Can you name such people?
Of course there are, although I can't name them, and they themselves will never admit it, otherwise they would immediately lose the trust of their voters, and consequently everything else. In the West, they introduce anti-discrimination laws by executive decision, without any polls or public surveys on the matter, rightly considering such laws simply necessary. Here, several years ago, they conducted a poll on this topic, and 30% were in favor of the death penalty for homosexuals! What we need are at least educational programs so that people know from childhood that a person can be homosexual. Currently, parents in such situations don't know or understand what to do, and they lash out at their children...
- By the way, even though you're a lesbian, you have two sons. Has your orientation somehow affected their sexual lives?
My younger son hasn't yet reached the age where one can judge that—he's in the 7th grade and lives with his father's grandmother, but regularly sees both his father and me. But it definitely hasn't affected my older son. He's already finished college and lives independently, but until recently he lived with me in lesbian families. I never noticed him showing any contempt for me... He's a very tactful young man, and we never actually talked about my sexual orientation. And now he's cheerful, full of life, everything is good with him, and he's heterosexual.
- At what age did you realize you were a lesbian?
As soon as my sexuality awakened, my orientation was immediately clear, that is, from early youth. And my first sexual experience was with a woman. Although back then I still thought it would all pass...
- How did you end up married?
My first marriage was probably a tribute to tradition: I was self-conscious and thought I should get married like everyone else... After all, I grew up in a provincial town where everyone knew everyone. Plus, I was pregnant. But very quickly, just a couple of years into the marriage, I got divorced. My last marriage, already in Moscow, although common-law, was completely conscious and normal. I think I loved the father of my second child, and I still love him very much as a person... although I wasn't interested in having a sexual life with him.
- Did he initially know about your orientation?
Yes, he knew, but like any man who came into this world to conquer it, he thought he could change that in me. What attracted me to him was his mind; his inner world was interesting to me (he's a famous philosopher), he became my teacher, and I still very closely follow his articles and books... I would have preferred a brother-sister relationship and suggested such an option to him, but he didn't agree; it was humiliating for him, and we had to separate.
- Your current lesbian "marriage" [sic] isn't your first either?
Yes, I've always lived with women. This "marriage" is my fifth.
- Why did the previous ones end? For the same reasons as in conventional families, or were there some specific issues? Maybe someone left you for a man?
Yes, that happened too. Generally, though—love fades, and why live together without love? I don't see the necessity of living together without love in heterosexual marriages, either, but there everything is more complicated—children, parents...
- The editorial office receives quite a lot of letters, including some addressed personally to you, from young men and women who have realized their homosexual orientation. Many of them write that they've reached despair and want to end their lives. What advice can you give these unfortunate individuals?
Of course, it's very sad when a person, at 18-19 years old, is unhappy because they were born different from others. Recognizing homosexuality in oneself is a tragedy for a person, and for people from small towns, from the provinces—it's a complete catastrophe. A girl like that has no choice but to flee from wherever she lives, to go to Moscow—in big cities, in the capital, the environment is much more favorable.
Interviewed by Boris MURADOV
Photo by the author
The interviewee in this piece, published in a 1997 issue of the weekly Argumenty i fakty (Arguments and Facts, 1978-), is Evgenia Debryanskaya (1953-)—a figure embodying a complex of seemingly irreconcilable tensions common in the collective LGBTQ consciousness of 1990s-era Russia. On the one hand, she declared an erotic orientation toward women from her earliest memory and vigorously advocated for LGBTQ people even during Soviet times. On the other, she married Alexander Dugin (1962), the Eurasianist philosopher who became one of post-Soviet Russia’s most radically nationalist—and virulently anti-LGBTQ—ideologues.
Debryanskaya loudly decried the abuses LGBTQ people had endured in Russia by comparison with many Western countries. At the same time, she expressed Russian nationalist views, defending the country’s right to develop its own “native” version of LGBTQ acceptance. Russia’s uniqueness, she argued, made it undesirable, if not impossible, to apply Western standards to local LGBTQ communities.
In “I Couldn’t Care Less About Public Opinion,” Debryanskaya’s remarks about Russia being behind the West in developing LGBTQ rights are curiously at odds with her nationalist and isolationist tendencies. Just a few years earlier, in 1991, Debryanskaya had refused to join a “Soviet Stonewall” event organized by, among others, Russian-American journalist and activist Masha Gessen and gay activist Roman Kalinin, later a presidential candidate for Russia’s Libertarian Party—of which he, along with Debryanskaya, was a founding member. The reason for Debryanskaya’s resistance was the event’s excessive American referentiality (i.e. its modeling of itself on the Stonewall Riots in New York City in 1969).
Debryanskaya’s values—a passionate LGBTQ advocacy combined with insulary Russian nationalism—become less contradictory in the context of late-Soviet dissidence. Although many contemporary critics view the Soviet experiment as an extension of “great Russian” imperialism, nationalism was officially anathema in Marxist-Leninist ideology. Assertive nationalism of the type Debryanskaya expressed was thus a subversive position in late-Soviet Russia. In the 1990s, Russian nationalism served yet another function. As Russia’s new leaders looked to its former capitalist-democratic antagonists for guidance, some observers grew anxious about the possibility of Russia “dissolving” in Western hegemony. Nationalist-conservative currents flourished, expressing a desire to reconnect with pre-Soviet Russian history and culture as a basis for a non-Soviet Russian national identity. In early post-Soviet Russia, vehement Russian nationalism continued to function as “anti-establishment”—not unlike post-Soviet LGBTQ activism.
Because a declared LGBTQ identity could spell a precarious existence on the margins of Russian society, many of those experimenting with homosexuality were wary of committing to a Western-styled sexual identity. A possible alternative was to view the expression of same-sex erotic desire as an incidental behavior, an of-the-moment choice that did not determine a more permanent identity. In this interview, Debryanskaya underscores that her lifelong orientation toward other women, and even her aggressive and highly visible LGBTQ activism, did not prevent her from marrying men twice (including a far-right ultranationalist like Dugin), or from having and raising heterosexual children. Debryanskaya, to whom this 1997 article referred as Russia’s “main lesbian,” said to sociologist Laurie Essig in 1989: “I'm not heterosexual, no. Nor am I bisexual, but I'm not a lesbian. I don't want to be what I do in bed.”